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� In this diary, I record my life as a transvestite. Perhaps it will help somebody else, who finds their lifestyle doesn't quite match that endorsed by the 'tranny mafia'. Well, I've been there... and survived. The debriefing starts here.

�loves: All kinds of stuff that society thinks I shouldn't.

�hates: Microsoft. Obviously.

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Tranny propaganda
10:10 p.m. -- 2008-06-20

If you read as many transvestite-produced websites and paper-based publications as I have, you'll see the same themes occurring repeatedly. Namely:

1. Transvestites are good people. They're in touch with their feminine side, which eliminates a lot of macho nonsense and makes them nicer people. They tend to be highly intelligent members of the community.

2. There's nothing you can do about being a transvestite. Some people 'purge' from time to time - get rid of everything girly - but they always come back, sooner or later. The urge doesn't go away.

3. Getting out to meet other 'trannies': various people and organisations arrange get-togethers, and describe events afterward (nowadays, with photos of course).

4. Endless discussion is devoted to the subject of telling the wife or girlfriend. Some people are able to describe their wedded bliss, while others describe how, sadly, their significant other just never could understand... and they drifted apart.

I don't think the people who write this stuff realise, as they collaborate to paint an idealised picture of transvestite world, is exactly that -- just one viewpoint.

1. Are transvestites nice people? Not necessarily. They can be VERY catty about each other, and certainly when criticising rival tranny subcultures (such as fetishistic transvestites, the "bi when dressed" brigade, the ones who go for the Grayson Perry 'little girl' look...) It seems that most transvestites are of above-average intelligence (hooray for us!) ...but are we wise? And as a string of broken marriages and broken off engagements attests, we don't really make great partners, despite our understanding, femme side.

2. Is a transvestite something that you are for life? Well... maybe, but why do so many of the 'sisters' seem to come out, enjoy the scene for a few years, and then vanish? Seriously. Where are the time-served trannies who were so active when I first read about them in 1994? They can't all have been lynched...

3. Is going out with the 'girls' necessarily a good idea? Well, you only live once. Go for it if you like. But bear in mind that most transvestites report a kind of cocaine effect: the second hit isn't nearly as good as the first. You need more to feed your habbit. So you had a garden party with the girls? Now go to a bar. Now go shopping in daylight! Eeek! And so on... but will your wife or girlfriend understand this need to push the envelope. Mine didn't. More on that some other time.

4. Is telling your significant other a good idea? One statistic suggests that 25% of people never do. Never. Not "haven't told her yet" ...never will. Some guy you never met says he told his wife and they both lived happily ever after: so what? He's not you. You have to remember that in reality...

YOU'RE NOT A TRANSVESTITE!

Well, okay, you are... but that only takes up about 5% of your life. You shouldn't describe yourself as a transvestite any more than you should describe yourself as a hang-gliding or scuba-diving enthusiast. There's more to life.

There really is. I've been there, and survived. And I feel quite good about my life, despite the fact that my choices seem to have run contrary to the vast majority of advice that exists out there.

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